Mildly Irritated
Okay, so something's been bugging me lately, but I wanted to get everyone else's opinion on this.
I have a family member (we're talking extended family) that I've tried really hard to keep in touch with since I moved away from home. I'm talking sending messages at least once a month or so, texting, IMing, etc. Since somewhere around August, I have sent messages that have not been responded to (on facebook), texts that have not been responded to, I've asked about this person through other family members, and I've gotten nothing but one 30 second IM conversation on facebook that I just happened to get lucky and catch the person online. Now, this wouldn't bother me so much if I didn't SEE this person on facebook corresponding with their other friends. This is not the only thing bothering me in this situation, but I'm not going to get into the other things because that may give away who I'm talking about.
So my question is...Is this acceptable? Is it ok to let someone's messages/texts sit in your inbox for months without responding? I get it if you're busy, but then just send me a text (that probably takes 30 seconds to type) letting me know that you've been busy and you're sorry you haven't responded. It's getting to the point where I'm actually considering not talking to this person again. I really don't feel like I should have to point out to this person that they've been ignoring me, but I'm wondering if I should say something. I've just had it up to here with people who want to be friends with you when it's convenient for them. Especially family.
Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions?
3 comments:
I have always been one to just wipe my hands of things like this. If it were me I would just quietly let the person go. Maybe they will realize 1 year down the road that wait a min so and so isn't talking to them anymore and want to reconnect, but that probably isn't the case in this situation. It happens a lot with friends where they just drift apart. Kind of sad that it is with family but I think this person has made it clear that even though they are family they don't care enough to respond. Good luck with everything.
I have family like this, but honestly I would just stop contacting them. There is only so much you can give without getting any in return.
Sometimes you just have to know that you tried your best and they are just not worth your heart ache and effort any more. They may eventually come around and that might be nice for you, or it may not.
You should let that one roll under the sofa and get lost for a while and eventually when it's ready to be found the cat will find it and bring it out for you (ha, sorry, cheesy analogy).
Make yourself happy and surround yourself with those who choose to surround themselves with you.
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